Week 3, Day 7 – Servant of All

by StephBuckwalter on June 26, 2011

Do you ever feel like you are the only one doing housework? In your house, it may be true, especially if you live alone, have small children, your spouse works a lot, or others in your house are unable or unwilling to do the work. This is a tough place to be. It is easy to begin to resent those around you, but that kind of thinking is a one-way ticket to relational disaster. Or to get down on yourself if you are not taking care of your home, but that is a one-way ticket to depression and self-defeat.

I shared the story yesterday for a reason. I originally started to write this post, then realized it needed an intro. When I came to the realization that some [most] things would never get done if I didn’t take charge, I began to climb up out of the pit of despair I had fallen into. When something bothered me enough to notice, it gave me something to focus on. As I did more and more little things, I began to realize there were things in the house that bothered others, so I did those, too.  As I worked, I began to change inside. I began to take pride in my home again. I began to do things for others, and not just for myself. I also realized that I could not do it alone and eventually got others to help, but simply starting with the small things made all the difference in the world.

If you are struggling with resentment or depression, go slow. When the condition of an area in your home bothers you, take charge. That doesn’t mean you have to do it yourself. You can always assign the upkeep to someone else. But taking charge will change you from the inside out.

(c)2011 Stephanie Buckwalter. All rights reserved.

  • http://twitter.com/hollybmartin Holly Martin

    Thanks, Steph, for the great, inspiring post. Today I spent 2 1/2 hours going through all our music books and CDs and taking a lot of them to the used book store (I earned about $32 in store credit! Of course, my son had to point out that all those items were worth a lot more than that originally…) I decided to take charge of that corner of the living room, for now. Maybe the rest of the room will follow.

  • http://twitter.com/hollybmartin Holly Martin

    Can I also add here that 3 days ago I spent 30 minutes dryer “pressing” my clean winter clothes and hanging them up. Maybe now I’ll actually take them upstairs to the closet, in time for next winter…

  • Amy

    I spent about an houron the challenge today: dusting the computer room, washing and rehanging curtains for it and clearing up messes in the kitchen and laundry rooms.

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